April 11, 2018
Both Bill and Ryan work at the same bar. The bourbon bar I visit occasionally. Both are apprenticing with me. Both are being penalized for working with me. The bar owner has cut their hours, belittled them and made it clear they are both not valued as employees. Itís really sad. Sad because both Bill and Ryan thought the owner was their friend and sad because this guy thinks management by intimidation is a viable and sustainable form of leadership. After the meeting they had yesterday I could see that both of them had been beaten up pretty badly. I felt bad for them.
If they keep going though these trying times life will be so much better. Once they make the leap from there to here they can wash their hands of all the drama and negativity that surrounds them at their current place of employment. They just have to be patient.
A bad boss is a real pain. If you donít buy into the bullshit and surrender your personal power you can make it through. You have to see the games for what they are. Plays for power. If you donít respond with anger when someone is angry with you they have no power over you. If you donít allow yourself to feel shamed or bad because of what someone said they have no power over you. If you donít accept their idea of who you are they have no power over youÖÖ.
My shop is a great place to work. Fun, interesting, drama free and above all respectful. The price will be worth it for them to keep going. It will all work out.
The most difficult part of dealing with a hostile work place is making sure you donít make hasty decisions. Itís impossible to keep your anger in check all the time. Sustained verbal abuse wears you down over time and you can make mistakes. You need someone to vent to and allow you to unload some of the emotional energy you have had to suppress. I act as that for these twoÖ..at least I hope I do.
I woke this morning and reminded myself of all the things Iíve been blessed with. The list is long. It left me feeling good inside.
Things I am thankful for:
the place I live
forgiveness for myself and others
acceptance of others as they are
the possible future
sun is shiningÖ...many many more